When ghee melts, add almonds, cashews and dry dates and roast them on low flame for a minute. You really don't need to make them brown.
Add turmeric powder and mix.
Now add grated coconut & roast it too for a minute. This too is not required to turn brown.
Add milk and sugar and let the sugar melt on medium to high flame.
When milk begins to boil, lower the flame and let it simmer for 5 minutes. Keep stirring and scraping the sides of pan at short intervals.
After 5 minutes, your madra is ready.
Enjoy it warm
Notes
You can use the dry fruits of your own choice and availability and in the ratio suitable to your need. However i remained stick to what i have seen my mother-in-law doing. She used to add only almonds, cashews, dry dates and coconut.
If you don't want to add turmeric, soak a pinch of saffron in warm milk for couple of minutes and then add to the madra. However, if you like, you can totally avoid giving a colour to the dessert.